Tag Archive for kink

Reflections on Displays of Ownership

I have of late been thinking about ownership, and the ways in which kinky people signify ownership – such as collaring, branding, etc. For me, collaring in particular is highly nuanced. As someone who enjoys puppy play and definitely feels herself to have an inner pup, collaring can, at times, simply be a necessary part of the play. Puppies, regardless… Read more →

Inverted Aftercare

I have found, as my kinks develop, and I grow up into a (hopefully) more sorted person, that I experience sub-drop less often, and less severely. I still have tearful days every now and then after playing, but they’re pretty rare, and even as I play with my darker kinks, I feel much more able to handle any fall-out. But… Read more →

Submissive, adj.

For four years exactly – from March 2009 to March 2013 – I identified, almost unquestioningly, with the term ‘submissive’, as a noun. ‘A submissive’. That was me. It sat right, it turned me on, it gave me what I wanted, and it represented me in a way I could communicate to others. I don’t know exactly what happened in… Read more →

e[lust] #37

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Harper Eliot’s Guide to Surviving Drop Alone

In light of several conversations on twitter and some of my own personal experiences, I have been considering drop. Sub-drop in particular, although top-drop too. And, as I feel sure exist, various other kinds of drop. For those of you unfamiliar with the term, drop is the often-experienced sense of loss/blues/emotion experienced after an intense (BDSM) ‘scene’. It can manifest… Read more →

Safe Words and Responsible Authorship

The first article of the Universal Declaration of Human Rights is rarely quoted in full. We often hear: All human beings are born free and equal (in dignity and rights). This opening line is, of course, extremely important. The question of freedom is one that I have discussed here at great length, on several occasions, and it is something that… Read more →

e[lust] #30

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